All About Ashley

One of the most important things all the Twin books and mom groups I'm now involved in for twins stress one very important rule.  Treat your twins as individuals.  Spend 1 on 1 time with each of them.  They are two different people so don't refer to them as "the twins", refer to them by name. 

I was fortunate enough to stay home with Ashley alone yesterday and while we didn't get a TON of 1 on 1 time with my working, we did get to enjoy just the two of us during our feeding times and she sat next to me in her bouncy chair listening to music and singing while I worked.  There was alot of talking and giggling yesterday just the two of us and I really enjoyed it.  Since she is taking part in the T.E.D.D.Y. Diabetes Study, we'll be having alot of these 1 on 1 dates just Ashley and I to take part in their research. 

Despite having pink eye, she was in a really great mood all day and I enjoyed having our special day together.  Since I have the luxury of Friday daycare that I can use or not use, I think it'll be important to pull Bree out every once in a while for the same kind of day so we have our own bonding time too.  And while I'm sure my comment will frustrate alot of followers that I have, I'm still gonna say it - TENDING TO ONE INFANT IS EASIER THAN TENDING TO TWO!  But this is coming from an extremely organized mom who doesn't know any different than starting from the beginning with two. My blog is a place for me to express my own thoughts and feelings.  If you don't like my thoughts, my blog can easily be removed from your favorites tab!

So I'll dedicate this blog to my oldest, my first born (by six minutes) and my beautiful individual baby Ashley.  Thanks for a great day yesterday sweetheart!  Mommy Loves You!!

Comments

[Lena]

Glad you get to spend some one on one time with each girl ;-). She is adorable, love the headband.

[Lynsie]

Well I can only speak for myself but I think being a parent no matter how many kids you have is NOT easy! I imagine you might lose some followers as I am a offended by that statement.

[Chuck]

I typically don't frequent this page, but when my wife called me upset with this blog, I had to check it out. I have to say, I do agree with one of your above comments, blogs are for expressing your thoughts and feelings. The beauty of blogs is that it allows for responses. The fact that you think that ONE BABY IS EASY floors me. Do you think one child in the hospital for 5 days with pneumonia at 9 months is easy? Do you think it was easy raising one child on one income for almost a year? Do you think that one child sick for three consecutive months is easy? Do you think having to split days away from work for those three months for one child was easy? Do you think that having to find child care for one child while both parents have to be out of town for work at the same time is easy? Do you think it was easy to watch your spouse be in physical pain for four years from the birth of one child? Your have good friends that went through hell for the blessing of conceiving one child. Do you think that was easy? We all understand you have twins. But for those of us with one beautiful child, we are equally as blessed. If I never have another child, I will be eternally grateful for the one incredible child that I do have. From reading your other blogs i.e. stay at home moms, I would hope that you would consider your words a little more carefully next time before you alienate any one else.

[Brian]

The pics are awesome! Glad you enjoyed the 1-on-1 time, especially since it's so hard to come by under normal circumstances. Looking forward to the next one about Brianna!

[Kristin]

Thanks for the post and sorry to hear about the pink eye! (Her eye doesn't look pink in the pics!) Hopefully it didn't spread to Bree or anyone else. I know what you mean about referring to them as individuals rather than "the twins." As they get older their individual personalities will pop out more and more. By the way, I meant to tell you I have a mommy friend I run into occasionally at the park w/ Madison, and she has twin girls too, Isabel and Greta. She is in a moms group called like "moms of multiples" or something like that. I will try to get the info from her and pass it along- she seemed to have the scoop on all kinds of consignment sales and things. Sounded like a cool group. And I can see where you're coming from, about your note about how being with one baby is easier than two. I can't imagine what it's like but it seems like you're doing a great job!!!

[Rachael]

Your girls are so beautiful! I'm sure this move to the new house will be a great one for all four of you. :-)
I had one infant... sure, it definitely wasn't easy... but in general, I'll bet it was easIER than two, hands down! You are doing a great job, being a mom and owning who you are. I say that if your blog offends or alienates anyone, they simply shouldn't read it. It is a personal blog after all. And they do have a choice to click on it. Why do people feel the need to read personal blogs that upset them or offend them? Interesting.
Have a great move and hope the new house goes up without too many hitches!! :-)

[Chuck]

Rachel, I think if you knew more about what you are commenting on, your comment may be taken seriously. Apparently, you feel it is ok to alienate long time friends. Why do people read personal blogs??? Because they are directed to them. I will be happy to provide you with my email address or phone number if you would like to take this up further if you do not agree with my or my wife's comments. But, I don't think it would be fair to attack anyone on Angela's blog any further. That is not what this forum is about. I would think you would agree.

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